A lot of people are asking me why I’m so hesitant to tell my own story, but here’s a quick recap of why I think it’s okay to be a transgender person: 1.

I’ve always been a closeted gay man.

When I was little, I’d hide in the corner of my closet and fantasize about what it would be like to live as a man.

2.

My parents were supportive.

They weren’t gay, but they never treated me like I was.

3.

They taught me that I was just a child and that I could make it.

When they died, they left a loving legacy of unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, and unconditional support for me. 4.

I never felt like I had to “out” myself, and I never had to fight for acceptance.

As a result, I’ve never felt ashamed or alone.

5.

I was taught that I’m beautiful.

My childhood has taught me not to judge others for their looks, so when I transitioned, I took on the identity of “a girl.”

6.

I feel like I’m at peace with who I am.

I don’t feel like people will judge me for my gender identity.

I know that they won’t judge me because they’ve never known me as a person.

7.

I’m happy being who I was born as.

It has always been there and it will always be there.

8.

I am not afraid to tell people.

I tell my parents and family every day, and even though it’s hard, I’m grateful they are my friends.

9.

I do not regret having a girl name.

It’s important to me to be who I always wanted to be. 10.

I can finally tell my friends that I am a transgender man.

I have to be honest with them, but I know they will love me no matter what.

I promise.

11.

I finally understand the struggles of being a transgender woman.

Transsexuality is a complex and incredibly complicated process.

I truly understand that it is not a matter of “having it all,” and I am so grateful for the support I have received from my family and friends.

12.

I no longer need to be ashamed for who I really am.

Transwomen do not always need to live up to our trans-inclusive ideals, and that’s OK.

I understand that, and so too do many transgender people who live their lives as women.

13.

I want to be the best person I can be in the world, and my life is now in the hands of God.

Transgender people are people who deserve the best life possible.

14.

I will always have the support of my family.

My family is the people I want, and they love me for who and how I am, regardless of how my gender is assigned.

15.

I now know that God loves me for the person I am and that He loves me just as much as I do.

My journey has been the most incredible and fulfilling of my life.

I hope you’ve found this post helpful.

If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out to me. 

Read more about transgender people at The New Yorker.